During my first month of being single, my friends were obliged to have dinner with me every single night or else I won’t eat a thing. Every night was a struggle because I used to have dinner with my ex boyfriend during our 1 year love hate relationship. And to suddenly eat alone was just so hard.
I remember one night, my bestfriend called me up to check if I ate something for dinner and I told her that I did. Well a pack of crackers can be counted as dinner, right? Or maybe not. I wasn’t trying to kill myself. I was just sad and too lazy to go out or even go downstairs to call for delivery. When my friends noticed that I was starting to lose weight again, they decided to oblige themselves to have dinner with me every single night. It’s so nice to have friends like them. They’re the sweetest! But spoiling me wasn’t the answer. I mean, I grew dependent each night and it wasn’t helping me in moving on. So I told them, “Let me try to eat alone. I should not imprison you guys just because I am sad.” some of them bargained that I am still weak to have dinner alone (and that I’d only cry because every fast food chain played songs would just remind me of my ex boyfriend. Which is so true.) but they eventually understood (or pretended to understand) and gave in.
It wasn’t really easy eating alone but I managed to train myself and next thing I knew, I was already getting used to it. But of course, there will always be nights where I wish I am eating with someone but generally, to eat alone is fun! Having a serene dinner is a gift and I won’t trade it for another argument-prone dinner with a guy just because he thinks I’m too choosy for not having a dip on my chicken nuggets.
So girls, did you eat dinner alone tonight too? :)
Earlier today, I asked that same question in Twitter and I got random answers. Most of my followers reasoned out that being single makes them a better person and it makes their lives less stressful. Yes, to be single would definitely mean freedom and maybe a more peaceful life but are the rest of the single girls’ population happy with their current status? I doubt it.
Sometimes, when you’re single people would think that you’re a loser (because your man left you for whatever goddamn reason/s) or that you’re a control freak (because you chose to let go of your 2 year relationship just because you weren’t contented.) Singlehood is a choice but are the reasons behind it that shallow?
When you’re single and people around are madly in love with their partners, you’ll feel like you’re in a dead end and left with no choice but to pressure yourself to get into a relationship the soonest time possible. This makes almost half of the single girls’ population feel like a loser.
Why are we single? Is it because you feel trapped whenever you’re in a relationship? Is it because you want to do things on your own? Or is it because the good guys are taken and the rest are uhhh trash bin worthy? I may not know your reasons but I tell you, whatever it is, please be happy with your status. If your friends pressure you in meeting random guys or engaging yourself into a relationship you’re not sure of, tell them that you are happy being single. Sure, it is a blessing to have someone by your side but pressure is never the answer.
I have been into pressured relationships myself and it sucked big time. And I don’t want you girls to experience it. Save up your tears for the right guy.
While the world is busy making you feel like shit because you are single, prove them wrong.
Oh. So why am I single? I’ll answer that some other time.
‘Til next post!
Single Girl xx
I bought this book as gift to myself for being a brave single girl for 6 months (and counting…) I encourage you girls to grab a copy of this and start reading! This will help you feel better about our current status. Well, this is much better than locking yourself in your room for a day. Read and realize that we are not alone in this and singlehood is not a curse, it’s more of a blessing.
Well girls I shall go out and face the adventure of life that awaits me. ‘Til next post!
Single Girl xx
And who doesn’t enjoy going to the movies? It’s like seeing another life before your eyes or maybe that’s just how I see it. Well anyway, I just got a text message from an old friend inviting me to watch movies this weekend. And it got me thinking. I have been watching movies with friends or sometimes alone but never with a boyfriend. (And when I say never, I mean 6 long months. I’ll let you in our tragic love story some other day.) It is very lonely to sit in a cold box-like place, hear people awww (or maybe shout, depending on the movie’s genre) about the flick and the closest you could grab for comfort is the bag of popcorn on your left hand. Sad, isn’t it?
But hey, we single girls should not mourn on the facts stated above! Yes it can be sad sometimes but don’t you know that according to Liz Tuccillo’s How To Be Single, her first rule is: MAKE SURE YOU HAVE FRIENDS. Because your bunch of friends are there to accompany you in every movie worthy day.
And watching movies alone won’t make you a loser. I have tried watching a movie alone myself. It was the time where I was yearning for space and freedom. I drove to the nearest mall and bought a movie ticket. I cried, I laughed and enjoyed the movie. I went home with a smile on my face. It is fun being single after all. :)
I am not really sure if I am making sense here but what I am trying to say is that to be single gives you the freedom to watch whatever movie/s you may want in wherever place in whenever time.
Single Girl xx
This is obviously my first post here in Tumblr and I don’t even have followers yet. So I guess I’ll make my first (boring) post stand like a disclaimer.
Okay, I have been single for quite sometime now and no I did not turn into a man hater bitch who grows bitter-er every single day. Being single is fun! It has its pros and cons but I’ll have to reserve them on my upcoming posts.
I am here to write about my everyday experience on singlehood. Of its bright and gloomy side. Of my Friday night outs with my girl friends. Of having dinner alone. And everything that would fall into that criteria.
I am here to make single girls realize that yes, we can still be happy even without a boyfriend. That there may be lonely nights but there’s always a happy morning that awaits us.
Though, I am not here to encourage girls to break up with their boyfriends or to stay single for the rest of their lives. I am here to remind everyone that you can be happy regardless of your relationship status.
Hmm I guess this is long enough. ‘Til next post!
Single Girl xx
